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🖤TRAUMA & BODY CONNECTION There has been incre

🖤TRAUMA & BODY CONNECTION
There has been incredible research and phenomenal books written on the connection between physical body & trauma/stress. I do a lot of research in this area since I work with many women with vaginal pain. Painful and stressful experiences create “body armour”, where the body contracts on a physical and emotional level. Over time, these contractions start to form bands of armour inside the tissue of the body which hold patterns of fear, anxiety, neediness, withdrawal, and avoidance. It could be one traumatic/stress event or it could be years of traumatic events which create this contraction in us. Since vagina and anus are muscles, trauma is held there too. Some bodies are stuck in chronic pain; muscle spasms, others hold onto anxiety; others are disconnected or frozen in fear. Each person has their unique trauma symptoms and their severity.
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Sometimes, talking therapy is not enough to release the tension/trauma/stress from the body. There are various wonderful BODY HEALING practices such as somatic bodywork, body de-armouring, TRE shaking therapy (HIGHLY RECOMMEND!) as well as deep tissue massage to assist people to release the tension. Bodywork can help you regulate your body’s physiology and free you from the body’s stress reflexes which take over when you are in stress. Bodywork is allowing your body to TALK instead of your brain.
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The only way to release trauma is slowly and gradually, with tenderness and care. Think of it as all the fizz in a Coke bottle. You gotta open it gently so it does not explode. Gradually, step by step your body begins to unclench and your nervous system reflexes change over time. Your brain and body begin to relax and feel safe again. 🙏🏻 (There is an article on my blog about sexual trauma symptoms)
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Here is a list of wonderful trauma/body books for you:

🖤In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine
🖤When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate
🖤The Body Keeps the Score by van Der Kolk
🖤Shake it Off Naturally by David Berceli
🖤The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process by David Berceli
🖤A Headache in the Pelvic by Wise & Anderson
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📸 via @corpus.lingerie

My kittens, the digital guide with 500 Revealing q

My kittens, the digital guide with 500 Revealing questions for lovers to deepen sexual desire is almost done! We are 1 week away from putting it into the shop on my website: www.theyoniempire.com
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Just finalizing some tech glitches and we are ready!!! Cannot wait to offer this for all the lovers out there to get you vulnerably sharing with each other about the things which matter. 🖤Love you, Elena
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📸 via @peppertogether

I bet ya’ll didn’t know that there is such a t

I bet ya’ll didn’t know that there is such a thing as a healing anal massage. And some people specialize in it! (You are saints!!! 🙏🏻) We hold a lot of tension in our buttholes. Loads of stored emotions up there too. Those who enjoy anal, know that it can make you feel emotional in the process, vulnerable, raw. Gentle massage or gentle anal love-making is VERY good for your anal health, emotional health. Id argue that good anal is healing as fuck! 🙏🏻🖤👻
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Unfortunately all we know is what we see in porn. My next guide is all about anal love-making. Yes, LOVE-MAKING!! And the first step is always with Self-love-making. For that we have yummy toys such as this @onna_lifestyle BONBON baby. Each piece hand blown by an artist in Canada. Each toy unique and special, just like you. 🖤
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📸 @freedomartin @onna_lifestyle

🙏🏻STOP THE DRAMA & SHARE THIS POST! I often

🙏🏻STOP THE DRAMA & SHARE THIS POST! I often hear from women: “It’s so much harder for women to orgasm than for men. It’s so easy for them! IT SUCKS!”
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My kitten, If you still think that female pleasure is so complicated, ask your man when was the last time he had his male g-spot orgasm? (Aka prostate orgasm. Yes, the prostate that’s inside his butt! 👻) Or ask him when was the last time he had multiple body orgasms? Or when did he orgasm without ejaculation last time?
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Female sexuality is NOT more complicated than male’s. It is just different. And this “orgasm gap” that everyone talks about can go fuck itself. What a load of bullshit to make women feel inadequate! Urgh!!! 🤓 Once you learn how your FEMALE body works, you will change the way you have sex, stop feeling ashamed/oppressed and find yourself cumming all over the walls without any orgasm gaps. THERE IS NO GAP if you learn how your body works and stop judging it for not being like a man’s. It never will be.
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BOTH men and women live with undiscovered pleasure potential. We aren’t worse off than men. Both males & females are tapping into only a tiny part of their sexualities and pleasure potential. So please stop moping around and telling yourself shitty stories of how you are worse off. You aren’t. You simply never learnt about your body nor took the time explore it.
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Moping and drama is a waste of time and self sabotage! And let’s be honest here - who do you think is gonna have their gspot orgasm first, you or your man? 🙈
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To begin your lesson, read the book by Sheri Winston - The Anatomy of Female Arousal. Thank me later. 🙏🏻🥰❤️
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📸 @lateciat 🖤

YOUR PLEASURE HOMEWORK: Make a list of 25 things y

YOUR PLEASURE HOMEWORK: Make a list of 25 things you LOVE about your body. 🖤
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📸 via @fernverrow

There are many misconceptions about what a healthy

There are many misconceptions about what a healthy libido looks like. Most assume that a healthy libido is a woman walking around like a horn-dog on crack everyday, rubbing her genitals on furniture corners. 🙈 Many courses/pills/books will try to sell you this BULLSHIT FANTASY - “buy my course & your libido will be super high all the time!”. The same people sell you happiness like its some thing you “achieve” and never feel not-happy ever again. Bullshit. Impossible to achieve. Bound to fail.
🖤 For me a healthy libido is being in a positive relationship with your sexuality & body, choosing compatible loving partner/s, and engaging in sex which feels nourishing & pleasurable to you. A woman with a healthy libido makes loving sexual choices for herself. A healthy libido is being OPEN to being sexual if your partner suggests it. It does not mean you jump on their genitals immediately like a dog in heat. It means you have a positive outlook to exploring. A healthy libido is NOT ONLY LUSTY HORNINESS. It is a calming comfort in your body, sense of trust in the relationship, genuine desire for sensuality, openeess to touch and be touched, acceptance of your fantasies/desires. So stop pressuring yourself to be horny all the time. You aren’t hungry all the time, nor sleepy, nor excited, nor sad. Everything is cyclical. Everything is balanced. Nothing lasts forever. Partners need to be ‘sexually apart’ in order to crave to come back together. It is like a flowing dance - step back, step forward, twist & turn. 🤓 The question to ask yourself is = what kind of ‘DANCE’ do I want and WITH WHOM!??! #lakukaracha #waltzme #youspinmeroundroundbabyroundround #lamacarena 📸 @ronyhernandes 🖤

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